5/31/09 - What can I do in this situation?

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A few days ago because I was ill my sister kindly let me use her laptop so I could lie in bed on her laptop. I went onto my msn to speak to a few of my friends from school and I was like really bored so I was checking all the chat logs and by accident I clicked onto one of her conversations. It said stuff like 'I have a bottle of vodka under my bed and I want to drink it really bad', and then later on it said 'I don't have alot of money so I don't want to spend it on cigarettes'. Our parents don't know she smokes or drinks, I've been trying to tell her for a while but I can't get round to it.. I don't want to tell my parents either because she'll be really mad. What should I do? Should I tell my sister I know her "secret" first before I tell my parents?

Sorry thats something for you to decide not us

Yeah, tell your sister first... but that might turn out for the worse. It depends how old she is. If you tell your parents, you can tell them not to say you told them, and tell your parents to say that they found the vodka etc.

Re: 5/31/09 - What can I do in this situation? May 31st 2009, 12:49 pm by Talan

Scotland wrote:: Yeah, tell your sister first... but that might turn out for the worse. It depends how old she is. If you tell your parents, you can tell them not to say you told them, and tell your parents to say that they found the vodka etc.

She's 16. Over here in England smoking and drinking is around 21. (edit: I just read smoking is 18)

Smoking and drinking is 18, and every normal person that's 16 drinks, and occasionally smokes, she's just living her life.

Re: 5/31/09 - What can I do in this situation? May 31st 2009, 1:24 pm by Talan

Howdy wrote:: Smoking and drinking is 18, and every normal person that's 16 drinks, and occasionally smokes, she's just living her life.

She's promised our mum she has never smoked and never will. Once our mum found cigarettes in her bag and my sister said it was her friends. Shes also told our parents that her friends smoke and drink but never admitted she has.

maybe tell ur parents were she has the vodka and tell them the website u found
this chat

Leave it, or tell her you know, why tell your parents?

Re: 5/31/09 - What can I do in this situation? May 31st 2009, 1:58 pm by Talan

Thanks for the advice everyone.

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Re: 5/31/09 - What can I do in this situation? May 31st 2009, 2:52 pm by Brennan

really i thought the drinking age in europe was 16... or is that hust germany idk anyway tell your sister first you know and go from there.

Re: 5/31/09 - What can I do in this situation? May 31st 2009, 4:01 pm by RR

Howdy wrote:: Smoking and drinking is 18, and every normal person that's 16 drinks, and occasionally smokes, she's just living her life.

Um, no. This isnt a 'let it go' situation. This could start the beginning of the end of her life.
I would really tell your parents..it doesnt matter if she gets mad at you.

Afraid to say it is, because there's not a more annoying thing than someone trying to tell you how to live your life.

Re: 5/31/09 - What can I do in this situation? May 31st 2009, 4:08 pm by RR

You have learned nothing from school/others have you?

The fact of it is, you can't control how people live, and it's their choice whether they go out drinking and whatever, or if they stay in and are good. Nobody can decide for you, and what you need to learn is to not try and help them.

Stay out of it.... it's her life...she's a teenager she's obviously going to do that... Unless there are huge problems that you see tell your parents. But stay out of it.

So what I mean is she will prob. do it once or twice but if you find she's doing it like every day or making bad choices under the influence tell your parents.

But talk to HER first

Re: 5/31/09 - What can I do in this situation? June 4th 2009, 5:14 pm by Rudolph

Tell because she could get help and you can stop her fro dying earlier. Better to be safe then sorry dude. Well... I depends if she is like... An alcoholic o something. If not... stay out of it.

Don't listen to mickey or Howdy. Unfortunately, this situation isn't a situation of the types of friends she hangs with or the clothes she wears. This involves her life-long health. You need to do something. You need to tell her parents, she shouldn't be doing this. If it was legal, she could get away with it. You and your parents wouldn't be able to do much if she wanted to smoke and drink and wasn't just addicted. But you have to do something. It could kill her at a very young age.

You're honestly making too much of a big deal out of this, more than half of teenagers do it, and I see no problem, they're not thinking it's going to kill them, they're experiencing life, having fun, if she's taking drugs or becoming addicted then there's the time to act, but if you do, talk to her first, it's the mature thing to do, get more information from her, instead of running to your parents and telling them.

She will get addicted if you don't do anything. Drinking and smoking are drugs. Anyway, this isn't experience life. This is ruining it. And it doesn't matter how many people do it, it still has the same terrible side effects that can lead to serious short-term and long-term effects that will end you up much unhappier with yourself and wondering why you ever started.

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